and what?
having gone to a school in upstate NY where greek life runs rampant, i never really knew of all the backlash that being "greek" receives.
one of my favorite examples is the following, that happened about 2 years ago
Setting: get together at my job
Characters: 3 coworkers and myself
coworker #1: oh my god. can you believe that my son wants to pledge a fraternity? i can't believe it at all. i'm trying to get him to stay away from it but i think he's going to do it. he should just focus on school. i think that's so stupid. it's just for partying and nothing else. i can't believe he wants to waste his time on it...
coworkers #2 and 3: :: nod and listen ::
coworker #1: i mean, i just really can't believe it. why would he want to do that. cathy don't you agree that he shouldn't do that?
me: well i'm actually in a sorority. when you pledge you get library hours so his studies shouldn't be affected...i got above a 3.0 while i pledged. he also needs a certain gpa to even get an application. and yeah we throw parties but that's not all we do and it's a great support system. so actually, i think it's a fantastic idea for him to do it.
coworker #1: :: stunned face while the cricket sounds kick in ::
Repeat a conversation along these lines over and over and that's what i've endured for years now. I, like every good american, blame tv. Because yes, on tv greek organizations are depicted as party animals who get drunk and high, are loose, and do nothing productive. but since when do we believe everything on tv? never
In all honesty, i don't care if you don't understand why i pledged. It's not for you to understand seeing as how it's a personal decision, and no i'm not going to try to make you understand why i did it. I don't care if you don't understand why there are so many greek orgs, why i have a "gang" sign, why my sorority colors are what they are.
I can deal with all of that.
What i cannot deal with and what pisses me off more than anything is when, upon learning that i am in a sorority, i get "really? why? i think that's stupid, i don't get it. i just never saw myself doing that".
um..ok
#1...you clearly never saw yourself doing it or guess what, you would have done it
#2...why is it stupid? because i spent however long i spent doing a process? a process that you don't even know when/why/how? how about, i think you're stupid because you buy $700 sneakers that never set foot on pavement because you keep them in a box. or i think you're stupid because you own a car that you can only drive when it's a sunny, blue sky kinda day. or i think you're stupid because you got that horrendous tattoo. not so nice of me right? right. because your sneakers and your car and your tattoo are all things that you wanted to do and if i don't get it, then i don't. but that doesn't make you stupid for having done so.
#3...don't call it stupid and then remember that i know a ton [ton] of girls and want me to invite my sisters to your parties, find you a gf, whatever. i thought we were all stupid?
:: side eye ::
i am not stupid for having pledged. i get that you don't "get it" and that's fine, but it's not "stupid".
i think i just realized i have a huge issue with the word stupid. lol
ok i think my rants are over...moving on. :D
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