: pet peeves ::

note added: the following rant that came from the fact that on this particular day, i sat for about 20minutes listening to someone give me excuse after excuse about why they couldn't attend a particular event. i basically let them talk to themselves because i barely responded to it. my technique may have worked because now she's going. :)

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according to wikipedia, the definition of pet peeve is:
" ... a minor annoyance that an individual identifies as particularly annoying to them, to a greater degree than others may find it. Examples may be; poor table manners, sloppy kitchen hygiene, smoking, grammatical errors in written passages, inconsiderate driving or lazy co-workers."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pet_peeve

i don't know about anyone else but i feel like i have a million and one pet peeves. for example ... i hate people smoking anywhere in my near vicinity; i hate when my blackberry freezes; i hate when someone on the train grabs on to the bar over my head instead of standing elsewhere.

undoubtedly, one of my BIGGEST pet peeves is when people claim they are "too busy" to do something. the fact of that matter is that we are all busy, regardless of what that busy is. being "busy" means that you are occupied with something. whether that is sleeping, watching tv, filing your nails, going to work .. you are occupied. now that i think about it, i can't really think of one time that we are NOT "busy". think about it ... right now i am busy blogging, while you may have been sleeping. occupied. even while you're sitting at your desk day dreaming about your upcoming vacation ... you know what, you're occupied!

ok now i need to rephrase my pet peeve ... "undoubtedly, one of my BIGGEST 'pet peeves' is when people pretend they are more important than they really are and use the 'i'm busy' line to BS their way out of why they didn't/can't do something".

that's much better. a lot of people think i'm mean because i'm the type that if i don't want to attend the event, or watch that movie, or go to that restaurant, i just say no. and when they ask why not, my answer is simple.

because i don't want to.

people think it's rude but the reality is, it's the truth in its most simple state. i don't want to go because i'm not interested ... if i really wanted to, i would figure it out. even if i was busy with an ACTUAL reason [like i already had plans], i could reschedule the dinner find another movie time, etc. yes there are times when you really are busy and the event [or whatever] can not be rescheduled, etc. i know that every "i'm busy" is not BS. i do not automatically think you're full of it [unless you're the type that ALWAYS always says you're busy ... then i think you're full of it]. but the fact of the matter is that that simple phrase is sssoooo commonly thrown around as a reason for everything. i'm sick of it!